by Dr. Karen Sherman www.drkarensherman.com Dr. Karen Sherman offers information to help couples deal with potential relationship difficulties. Diamonds are Forever You're about to get engaged - how wonderfully exciting! This marks the beginning of a new life. You are making a commitment that says to the world how devoted you are to each other. This is certainly a time of celebration. In order to make a statement that embodies all that an engagement means, we have chosen a symbol - one that sparkles and shines and says visually that our love and will last forever. As all things in life, that which brings us joy and happiness may also present problems. Engagement rings are no different. Should the ring be a surprise or would you like to help select it? Have you hinted to your beloved or outright told significant others what you want the ring to look like? Do you place significance on its size, shape, or setting. Through our upbringing, we are raised to adhere to certain beliefs. We expect that others, especially people we hold dear, will share these same values. We learn about how others think and feel about certain matters by what they say and/or what they do. In fact, a large part of feeling close to someone is because they are similar to us. But in matters of the heart, such as an engagement ring, there can be no absolutes about what is right or wrong. Rather than the final outcome, it is the process of getting there that can raise questions about shared values. Hidden behind gestures are expectations. Though in this article ring giving is being addressed, expectations are likely to pop up throughout your relationship. Unspoken expectations can be very damaging to a couple; whereas clear communication and understanding can lead to a long and satisfying journey. So, be aware of how to create the true gem of your partnership by mutual respect and understanding of one another's differences. Take note of such things as: The way in which you each deal with financial issues The desire you each have for romance or practicality The importance you each place about the outside world to your relationship Acknowledging and accepting your different styles will be the best investment you can make in having a relationship that is forever. Copyright © Dr. Karen Sherman www.karensherman.com